I understand that trans life is very hard and I have known a number of people who have transitioned partially or completely, had surgeries (or not). The idea is that it is okay to be attracted to that. Otherwise, what is even the point of bisexuality or the attraction to the two? The idea is that they are different. I would like to not be judged as some sort of bigot because I love men and women.Īnd I want my men to be men and my women to be women. What I would like, however, is for my orientation to be respected and not turned into something it isn’t based upon this apparent fluidity of gender. I still do not need “visibility” or special treatment. I never felt the need to explain it to anyone (except maybe my parents when I was in college, but I got over that). I didn’t need a flag or a pin or an undercut to show just how bisexual I was/wasn’t.
If I felt like talking about the relationship, I did. Whoever I dated was my business and if I introduced my person to someone, that was what it was. I never felt the need to “come out” to anyone. It is only expected to rise as younger people are identifying more and more as queer, trans, or non-binary. According to the Williams Institute, over 1,397,000 people in the US identify as transgender. Approximately 50% of respondents were younger and it was expected that more would identify in the future. In 2017, 390 people out of 100,000 were estimated to be trans. There is, therefore, only pan-sexuality the idea that one is attracted to a person, not a gender. I guess the bi, in bisexual refers to what, then? No one really has an answer for that. They even go so far as to define it:įor example, bi+ activist Robyn Ochs defines bisexuality as “the potential for attraction to people with genders similar to and different from own.” It is even to the point that, the resource for bisexuals is now calling it “bi+” because there are trans people who consider themselves bisexual. If there are no genders, then bisexuality is a lie. Regardless, by definition, this eliminates bisexuality.
Many have serious identity conflicts that are not just related to their ideas of being in the wrong body. But I have always felt that rights for people with various disorders are individual and shouldn’t be lumped into a large, generalized group that does not take into account their various issues. If there is no gender or it is how you feel or it is fluid, then there can be no protections based upon gender or sexual orientation since it can be changed at any moment.Īccording to my kid, this makes me a TERF. Trans movements are erasing homosexuality. Since we know now that gender either doesn’t exist at all or is completely non-binary or on a scale of masc to femme (unless you’re indigenous and Two-Spirit), this means that bisexuality no longer exists. You know, the women or men that love women and men.
But it has been said to me that everything I know is the old way. It would never be said explicitly, because everyone’s experiences are valid, etc, etc.
Whether or not they’d come out and say it exactly, that’s the gist. I’ve been told time and again that my experiences are no longer valid. Imagine me, a young mother, not yet 50, being schooled by my 18-year-old about how the LGBTQIA+ community isn’t what it used to be. The more I talk to my kiddo and gathered friends (in SoCal), the more I am getting called “old” and “old fashioned”.